The beautiful girl

Who is the girl of my dreams? 

A particular thing is what it is by virtue of the Idea informing it. Something is "beautiful " to the exact extent that the archetype of Beauty is present in it. When one falls in love, it is Beauty that one recognizes and surrenders to. Beauty is only an attribute of the particular, not its essence. The girl of my dreams is therefore an idea, an archetype that forms what I constitute as beautiful. I have only ever met one girl who I would describe as beautiful, one who has left footprints in my heart. My definition of beautiful is different to how many others see it, or at least in comparison to my friends and people I know. Beauty is not only embodied in physical appearances but within the soul. True beauty is embodied within the soul, a beauty that is supreme, pure and eternal. 

You will spot the girl of my dreams by her big eyes looking eagerly at the world, and you will see her stopping and staring at something beautiful, mouth wide open, lost to the world, in awe of something she just experienced. You will feel her thinking, how she could capture that image within a picture or phrased in words so everyone would be able to feel what she just felt. Sometimes silence is all it is needed to paint that image. 

She will always find beauty in things around her because she will always look for something that she can shape in the amazingness that is language. She knows that things are of greater truth when she can share them with her words and pictures. She knows that phrasing and capturing her encounters will add a depth to the experience. She know humility because she has met the boundaries of language and felt the silence that occurs when the world is too big for an expression. 

She will always further oneself intellectually and culturally. Being polite, kind and showing respect, are of course, the essence of being beautiful. That's not to say that she is one that does not stand up for herself. Quite the contrary, in fact: she will be an unmovable resistance where morals or justice are concerned. It is the difference in voices that eloquently creates a perfect storm, and supports the notion of how opposites attract in the realm of love. 

A speculative and philosophical kind of love, one that examines deeper into soul, excites the mind. While the ordinary life - friendship, games, dining - engages the rest of the self. It is finding the equilibrium between these types of love that we find the 'sweet spot' of my ideal kind of love. If we had one and not the other, it will degenerate into an empty form of verbalism. The speculative and philosophical kind of love is usually a silent and only seen between the two souls. It is as mysterious as the concept of philosophy, in which there is no direct answer, but rather a discussion between the souls. Just as how Socrates highlights how philosophy lives in dialogue, it exists in the very essence of love as it is usually a silent dialogue between two individuals. 

It is important to differentiate between falling in love with someone, with falling in love with 'being in a relationship'. The concept of beauty within a relationship is different to the embodiment of beauty within a person. Beauty of relationship, however, adds character to the person and is partially related to the beauty of the person. She will be yours. She will lay by your side and join you as you read a book in a scenic place. She will congratulate you after your game. She will hold your hands. She will cuddle on the couch and lay in bed with you. She will do cute things. She would be your queen. She will come to Paris with you. Be daring. She will follow you to see the northern lights and the stars. Go to the city with you and be carried whenever she wants. These are just some of traits which embody the love a relationship, but not necessarily the love of a person. 

I've found that being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. The concept of love and one's dream girl is therefore an elusive one. I believe that belief, like fear or love, is a force to be understood as we understand the theory of relativity and the principles of uncertainty. It is this phenomena that determines the course of our lives. Yesterday, my life is headed in one direction. Today, it is headed in another. Yesterday, I believe I would never have done what I did today. These forces that often remake time and space that can shape and alter who we imagine ourselves to be, begin long before we are born and continue after we perish. Our lives and our choices, like quantum trajectories, are understood moment to moment. That each point of intersection, each encounter, suggests a new potential direction. It is within this theory that we believe the girl of our dreams, may one day, come into contact and create a new potential direction. I believe if you wait for the right moment, and make the right and wrong decisions, destiny will unfold itself.